Praise the Positive
The Power of Praise: Reinforcing the Good We Want to See
I often talk about the importance of small, consistent actions that support mental and emotional well-being. One of the most powerful—but often overlooked—tools we have is praise. When we intentionally recognize and affirm positive behavior in others (or ourselves), we reinforce the likelihood that it will happen again.
Praise isn’t about flattery or empty compliments—it’s about being specific and genuine. Telling a child, “I noticed how patiently you waited your turn—that was really respectful,” does more than make them feel good in the moment. It helps them internalize that patience and respect are worthwhile, repeatable behaviors.
This principle applies across all ages and settings. A partner who hears “Thank you for unloading the dishwasher—I really appreciate it” is more likely to do it again. A coworker who’s praised for their creative input will feel encouraged to speak up more. In therapy, we often help clients shift their internal self-talk to recognize their own growth: “I handled that situation calmly—I’m proud of how far I’ve come.”
Why does this work? Because positive reinforcement taps into our brain’s reward system. When behavior is followed by positive feedback, our brain begins to associate that behavior with a sense of accomplishment and connection.
This week, try noticing one positive action a day—big or small—and name it out loud. Whether it’s with your child, your spouse, your team, or yourself, that praise is not just encouragement. It’s training the brain, shaping behavior, and building stronger relationships in the process.
Happy to be in your corner,
Tom Page, LCPC
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