How To Get Clarity
Have you ever felt paralyzed with indecision? You’re not sure which choice is the right choice. If only you knew what you wanted, and the path to getting it, then maybe you’d have enough clarity to take some action. But the unknown seems like a bottomless pit that will swallow you if you step into it. So, you stay back, play it safe, and try to figure out the clarity piece - except that the clarity piece never comes. Woof.
Does this sound familiar to you?
I know it does for me. This is a game I’ve played with myself over and over again. The mental assumption went like this: I need clarity before I can be confident about making a move. And since I’m not confident, I don’t make a move. I’ve done this with my business, education, home repairs, dating, health goals, etc. And let me tell you, it’s a recipe to go nowhere fast.
The hard reality is that Clarity comes AFTER commitment.
Nobody can live in the future, so it is impossible to get perfectly clear about a desire, goal, outcome, relationship, career, or whatever before you try it. That’s just not how it works. You have to take committed action, and then you learn what works and doesn’t work.
If you make a habit of pursuing a goal, taking action on it, and then learn from it over and over, that is a process called iteration. You improve things as you go. This is how real progress happens. The percentage of human beings who have ever had perfect clarity about what would work on a personal or professional goal is a whopping zero percent.
So, if you’re not making progress in some area of life that matters to you, here’s how you start to make progress
Name the goal or outcome the best you can. “I want to accomplish X by Y date.”
Name one thing you can act on that might help you
Do that thing and learn from it
Return to step 1 and repeat the process
As I write this, I am currently feeling stuck on a professional goal. I have no idea how to make progress on it. But what I can do is educate myself and ask for help. So, that’s my next step. No more clarity will come until I make moves in those areas. It cannot be otherwise. (I mean, I’m open-minded enough to allow for miracles, but expecting miracles is not a great business model in my experience. 🙂)
Invitation: Where are you feeling stuck? Consider what you want and follow the steps above. Over time, you will gain greater clarity.
Happy to be in your corner,
Tom Page, LCPC
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